Do This Instead of Making a New Year’s Resolution

Happy 2020!

I don't know about you, but 2019 kicked my ass worse than Ed Norton's surprise punch to Brad Pitt in Fight Club, and I'm excited to start fresh with a clean slate.

For years I made New Year's resolutions, only to have them fall by the wayside by February. Actually, I was lucky if they lasted that long!

The issue is, I think for most of us, is that we make these hard and fast rules about losing weight or finding a soulmate or getting the corner office, yet we don't' create an actual plan with steps on how to get it done.

Daily, consistent, actions are what take you from where you are to where you want to be, but instead of focusing on the outcome at the end with expectation, we can focus on what to do each day in the present moment to move forward - even just one step.

Personally, I decided a few years ago, that the idea of a “resolution” per say, didn’t put me in the right frame of mind to make changes. I felt it was a bit judgy of what I wasn’t committing to in the present, and felt pressure to keep to my resolution 100%, or thought I was a failure.

I’ve grown to love how setting an intention brings a feeling of excitement and promise, more so than the old-school resolutions I’ve made in the past; those left me feeling guilty and lazy when halfway through February they were old news. The resolution problem lies in thinking that we aren’t “good” enough the way we are, and that we will be better or happier when we get something else, or change who we are.

In setting an intention, you resolve that you’re already “enough,” so you move forward without having an attachment to the outcome- it’s more about the journey. You might still want to lose 10 pounds, but it isn’t focused on skinny jeans, it involves caring enough about yourself to eat good food and exercise. Naturally, the pounds come off, but it’s not because you need to change who you are.

The catch is that you can’t just set your intentions and run off; you need to live them every day. As you gain wisdom through self-reflection, your ability to act from your intentions blossoms. We plant seeds of true intention in order to watch them grow like leaves on a tree, and it doesn’t happen overnight. It’s called a practice because it is an ever-renewing process.

So I have a proposition for you - instead of making a resolution without a plan, how about you listen to this super quick video I made for you and learn how to set an intention for something you want to cultivate this year?

I have a feeling that by February 1st you'll already be so in a groove with your new habits that you'll forget all about that goal you've set for the last ten years and never reached.

And you'll feel soooo much better without that hanging over your head!

Wishing you sooo much love, luck and success in 2020!

XO

Danielle